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  Praise for Mudhouse Sabbath

  “At a time when we are so aware of the differences between Judaism and Christianity, Lauren Winner’s book on what we can learn from each other is so refreshingly welcome.”

  —Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People

  “[Winner is] a gifted writer who has much to teach us about the deep and indestructible bonds between Judaism and Christianity.”

  —Richard Mouw, past President, Fuller Seminary

  “A compelling engaging (and at times appropriately humorous) tour of rarely exposed yet Biblically rooted spiritual disciplines.”

  —Relevant Magazine

  “The strongest reason to read this book . . . is that it makes one think. I have been considering some of her statements and discussing them with friends ever since I read the book, and I’ve ordered copies for close friends and recommended it to just about anyone who would listen to me. Book clubs would have much to talk about after reading this, and it should have a beneficial impact on our Christian community, if we will listen.”

  —The Living Church

  “Mudhouse Sabbath not only reminds us that Christianity is fundamentally birthed from and nurtured by the Jewish tradition but invites us to reconnect with this rich heritage. Here we are encouraged to feed our Christian faith by planting deep roots in the fertile soil of Jewish spirituality and practice.”

  —Peter Rollins, author of How (Not) To Speak of God

  “Lauren Winner speaks the language of this generation. It is authentic, free and bold.”

  —Ben Young, author of The Ten Commandments of Dating

  “For all of us who can’t get our spiritual lives in shape by shipping out to a monastery, Lauren Winner explores simple, do-able ways of keeping company with God in the ordinary, day-to-day world of eating, working, resting, romancing, aging, earning, grieving, and celebrating. Her rich identity as a Jewish/Christian/scholar/writer informs every sentence.”

  —Brian McLaren, pastor and author of A New Kind of Christian

  Photography: Jen Fariello

  LAUREN F. WINNER is the author of numerous books, including Girl Meets God, Mudhouse Sabbath, Still: Notes on a Mid-faith Crisis, and Wearing God. She has appeared on PBS’s Religion & Ethics Newsweekly and has written for the New York Times Book Review, the Washington Post Book World, Publishers Weekly, Books and Culture, and Christianity Today. Winner has degrees from Duke, Columbia, and Cambridge universities, and holds a PhD in history. Lauren teaches at Duke Divinity School and lives in Durham, North Carolina. Lauren travels extensively to lecture and teach.

  MUDHOUSE

  SABBATH

  An Invitation to a Life of

  Spiritual Discipline

  STUDY EDITION

  Lauren F. Winner

  Mudhouse Sabbath: An Invitation to a Life of Spiritual Discipline—Study Edition

  2015 First Printing This Edition

  Mudhouse Sabbath copyright © 2003 by Lauren F. Winner

  Mudhouse Sabbath Study Edition copyright © 2015 by Lauren F. Winner

  ISBN: 978-1-61261-453-3

  The names and identifying details of a few of the people who appear in these pages have been changed.

  Unless otherwise designated, Scripture quotations are taken from the New Revised Standard Version of the Bible, © 1989 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the USA. Used by permission.

  Scripture quotations marked (NIV) are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers.

  Scripture quotations marked (NASB) are taken from the New American Standard Bible. Copyright ©1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995, by the Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.

  Scripture quotations marked (KJV) are taken from the King James Version of the Bible.

  Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2011 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

  The Paraclete Press name and logo (dove on cross) are trademarks of Paraclete Press, Inc.

  Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

  Winner, Lauren F.

  Mudhouse Sabbath : an invitation to a life of spiritual discipline / Lauren F. Winner. — STUDY EDITION.

  pages cm

  Includes bibliographical references.

  Originally published: c2003.

  ISBN 978-1-61261-453-3

  1. Winner, Lauren F. 2. Judaism—Liturgy. 3. Anglican Communion—Liturgy. 4. Anglican converts—United States—Biography. 5. Christian converts from Judaism—United States—Biography.

  I. Title.

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  All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced, stored in an electronic retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other—except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior permission of the publisher.

  Published by Paraclete Press

  Brewster, Massachusetts

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  Printed in the United States of America

  CONTENTS

  INTRODUCTION TO THE STUDY EDITION

  INTRODUCTION TO THE FIRST EDITION

  ShabbatSabbath

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  KashrutFitting Food

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  AvelutMourning

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  Hachnassat orchimHospitality

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  TefillahPrayer

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  GufBody

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  TzumFasting

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  Hiddur p’nai zakenAging

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  Hadlakat nerotCandle-lighting

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  KiddushinWeddings

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  MezuzotDoorposts

  DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

  NOTES

  GLOSSARY

  INTRODUCTION

  to the Study Edition

  The book you are reading was conceived fourteen years ago, not long after my conversion from Judaism to Christianity. I was enraptured by the church and everything I was learning as a new Christian about all that I might do to notice, hear from, and be pulled more fully into friendship with God. I was captivated by the Lord’s Prayer, Eucharist, lectio divina. At the same time, I missed much about my life as an observant Jew. There was a certain religious choreography in observant Judaism that drew me into a daily awareness of God and of the holy. I found I missed the way Jewish practice helped create sacred space in my home, and the way Jewish practice connected even the most mundane actions, like eating, to life with God.

  Mudhouse Sabbath began as a meditation on those things I missed. As I wrote, I realized that many of the Jewish spiritual practices I missed were not incompatible with life as a Christian—indeed, many of them were part of the deep structure of Christianity, too: Judaism and Christianity, for example, both name prayer as a place where we can encounter (and be encountered by) God. Both traditions name Sabbath-keeping as a way to dwell non-productively with God. And so the book changed shape a bit, becoming less a bundle of nostalgia and yearning, and more a reflection on a set of spiritual practices that, in fact, organize both Judaism and Christianity. The question I sought to answer was “What can Ch
ristians learn from Judaism about these practices that structure both our traditions, and what can Christians learn from Judaism about the God we both worship?”

  Of course, my life with God, and my thinking about religious practice, has grown and changed in the last decade and a half. Today, when I open Mudhouse Sabbath, I notice that, if their wholesale absence from this book is any indicator, categories and questions that are important to my thinking today were not on my mind at all years ago. Most centrally, the idea that pursuing God’s justice in the world, and expecting to encounter God while doing so, has become important to my spiritual life, and to my understanding of what life as a disciple of Jesus entails, but I say virtually nothing about it in this book. That silence was most obvious to me while rereading two chapters: fasting and Sabbath. So, as you read the fasting chapter in this new edition, I ask you to hold in mind a question that you won’t find addressed there: how does temporarily, voluntarily abstaining from food connect us not only with God, but also with those who have too little food? How, in other words, is fasting an act of solidarity with hungry people—people who live in the cracks and crevices of society, people for whom Jesus seems to have a special fondness? This notion that fasting quickens rich people’s sympathies for poor people is, by the way, something that Jewish and Christian tradition have discussed over the centuries—a discussion often prompted by God’s question, in Isaiah:

  Is not this the fast that I choose:

  to loose the bonds of injustice,

  to undo the thongs of the yoke,

  to let the oppressed go free,

  and to break every yoke?

  Is it not to share your bread with the hungry,

  and bring the homeless poor into your house;

  when you see the naked, to cover them,

  and not to hide yourself from your own kin?

  [Isa. 58:6–7]

  “Fasting can heighten our sense of solidarity with the destitute and the hungry throughout the world,” sums up Rabbi Samuel M. Stahl. Thus, right around the great Jewish fast of Yom Kippur, people frequently give extra money or food to charities—to testify to, and act on, that awakened compassion.

  Justice is absent from the Sabbath chapter, too. These days, when I think about Sabbath and rest, I am more aware than I once was that there are many people in our society who do not have the luxury of wringing their hands over whether they are or are not keeping Sabbath. I am more aware of the working poor who may be holding down two or three jobs, working all through the weekend, and even so are barely able to keep food on the table. Practicing Sabbath is a faithful way to look for God—and, at the very same time, for Christians in North America, practicing Sabbath may be a mark of the practitioner’s comfort and privilege. Here, too, is a lesson from Judaism. Judaism suggests that one’s weekly day of rest should transform the rest of the week. As Joseph of Hamadan wrote:

  The Sabbath day is a soul for the other six days; they derive their nourishment . . . from it. It is at the center, the essence and foundation of all. It is the middle stem of the candelabrum, upon whose [energy] the six candles draw. So the Sabbath is in the middle: Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday are called the ‘Conclusion of Shabbat’ and Wednesday, Thursday and Friday are called ‘Sabbath eve.’ The Sabbath is in the middle, imparting [light and Divine presence] to the six days of activity.

  It seems to me that if you and I are going to integrate the rhythms of Sabbath rest into our lives, one way weekly rest should change our other six days is this: we should devote ourselves, during our six work days, to working for a world of just labor practices, a world in which everyone can afford to rest.

  That new attention to God’s justice is not the only thing that has changed in my life since I wrote the first edition of this book. Some things about my day-to-day life have changed. In these pages, you will meet my mother, sick with cancer, and you will meet a narrator (me) who professes no intimate acquaintance with death: my mother died shortly after Mudhouse Sabbath was published, and I was at her bedside. In these pages, you will meet the man I married eleven years ago; we are no longer married. I also weigh a little more than I did when I wrote this book, and have more gray hair than I did then, and crow’s feet. And I no longer live in Charlottesville, Virginia, home to the still-wonderful Mudhouse coffee shop from which the book’s title comes. I now live in North Carolina, and nowadays, I tend to avoid coffee shops and drink my coffee at home, on a small red couch by the window.

  I attended divinity school after I wrote this book, and I wrote an academic tome about religious practice in eighteenth-century Virginia (it is obscure and somewhat narrow, and if you read it, you will join a club of about six people). In divinity school and in the Virginia archives, I learned more about spiritual practices that Christians in earlier eras were committed to. For example, chapter three of this book sketches the contours of mourning in Jewish communities, and suggests that contemporary Christian communities barely know how to mourn at all. To a large extent, I would say the exact same thing today—but I would add something I have learned in the last decade: in earlier centuries, Christian communities had robust practices of mourning and bereavement, which accomplished much the same thing that Jewish mourning practices accomplish. For example, Jews inhabit a yearlong calendar of mourning, with mourners praying a specific prayer, the mourner’s kaddish, every day for a year. A similar calendar was once observed by bereaved Christians who wore mourning clothes for a year. Those mourning clothes were just one of a host of bereavement practices that, once commonplace in Christian community, have now been largely forgotten by the church. Learning about these earlier Christian mourning practices only deepens my sense that for Christians to take inspiration from Jewish observance of shared spiritual practices is not to borrow or poach—it is, rather, to reacquaint ourselves with our own spiritual heritage.

  And yet: I have also, over the last decade, learned more about how problematic it can be for Christians to, indeed, borrow Jewish practice. The whole Christian story, in a sense, is an appropriation of the Jewish story, and there is something troubling about that appropriation. It is not only troubling, but troubling is one thing that it is. And so, while I believe that Christian learning from Jewish practice may yield a faithful enrichment of Christians’ spiritual lives, I also feel more cautious about that learning and borrowing and taking inspiration from—because over the centuries the church has taken much from Judaism, and taken it in the wrong key. At a minimum, it seems to me that our Christian learning from Judaism needs to be approached with humility and care, and as much as possible it should be undertaken while listening to Jewish friends’ and neighbors’ reactions and responses and thoughts about the whole project—the project of Christians learning about Judaism not primarily so that they understand Judaism better, but so that they might deepen their own Christian spiritual practice.

  Here is a small secret: originally this book was going to have twelve chapters, but I got really, really behind, and so . . . the book has eleven chapters. The twelfth chapter was supposed to be on tithing, and I still believe that Christians have a lot to learn from Judaism about tithing—not just that we “should” give away ten percent of our income, but that we are doing so only secondarily to keep the lights on in the church, to keep the pastor paid, to keep the shelves at our favorite food bank stocked. We give away money because doing so can transform our relationship with God, and with the created world.

  So there could be a twelfth chapter on tithing, or there could be other wonderful twelfth chapters: what do Christians have to learn from Judaism about silence? About solitude and community? About love? About forgiveness? About intimacy with God?

  And yet, there is, in this edition of the book, no new twelfth chapter. Instead, throughout this edition threads an invitation to a (twelfth) spiritual practice that is central to both Judaism and Christianity: study.

  Both Judaism and Christianity—drawing foremost on the commandment in Deuteronomy 6 to love God not only with your soul a
nd heart and strength, but also with your mind—understand study as spiritual practice. Studying the Scriptures or other sacred texts, attentive reading of theology, even the study of the history of one’s faith tradition—all of that can be a virtuous spiritual practice that might knit you into closer, more honest relationship with God and with your neighbor. In my own life, this is a lesson I learned first in Judaism, just as I first learned the wisdom and beauty of Sabbath, song, and penance first in Judaism. Some members of the Jewish community in which I lived set aside time each day, others each week, to carefully study a few lines of the Talmud (an ancient collection of rabbinic interpretation of the Bible—see the glossary). When I say a few lines, I mean a few lines: occasionally, several hours could be devoted to drinking in the meaning of just two or three words. This study happened b’chevruta, in pairs. I found this studying as part of a pair challenging at first—I am pretty solitary, and especially when my nose is in a book, I want to be alone. But over time I came to see the wisdom of organizing text study in pairs: when I meet with you to study a sacred text, I am acknowledging the limits of my own resources; I am acknowledging that the people of God listen to God’s revelation in Scripture together, and that the meaning I find in the text must always be held next to the meaning you find—or, indeed, next to the meaning that we find together. And when I study text with you, I am acknowledging, also, that I come to this text not only to meet God or to learn to love God more fully, but also to meet and love you.

  Although I learned about the practice of text study first from Judaism, it is of course true that study is also central to Christian faith and practice. For many of us, the most important study is Bible study—often pursued in a group, sometimes pursued alone. Shot through the Scriptures is the imperative to study the Scriptures—as in the beginning of Psalm 1: “Happy are those . . . [whose] delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law they meditate day and night” (v. 1–2). But it is not just Scripture that we study; we study the whole of the Christian tradition—theology and church history. (Our study of biology and Jane Austen and architecture can be spiritual practice, too. Studying Pride and Prejudice is, of course, not the same as studying the Bible, but we can nonetheless see it as part of our Christian spiritual lives, our lives lived before God—both because we trust that God can show us something about human nature, about ourselves, about social arrangements when we read Pride and Prejudice; and because we trust that it is God’s renewal of our minds that allows us to apprehend whatever is good and true and beautiful inside Austen’s words.)